If you’re someone who struggles with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, or fully embracing your truth, you’ll want to check out “Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life” by Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani.
A large part of my own personal development journey has been overcoming such blocks and reprogramming my limiting beliefs. This book is great for any individual, creative, or entrepreneur who is on a similar journey.
Kristina delves into how personal experiences and society shape our internal programming, what conditions are needed for long-term transformation, the true definition of self-love, and how to heal your relationship with yourself to overcome the learned behaviors that are holding you back from inner peace.
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Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life by Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani
WHAT IT’S ABOUT
“Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living an Imperfectly Authentic Life” is the debut book from Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani, the co-founder of the popular personal growth platform Mindvalley. It explores the journey of living with true authenticity and the meaning of it beyond its status as a buzzword.
Kristina digs deep into what authenticity actually looks like as a lifelong practice in the real world to achieve more freedom, confidence, and happiness in all areas of your life.
As she explains: “It is my hope that this book supports you as you sever the connection between your self-perception and the outside world in one fell swoop.”
WHY YOU SHOULD READ IT
There is no shortage of books out there that talk about “embracing your flaws” and “living authentically” but this one actually delivers a solid collection of lessons and practices. Kristina’s voice is refreshingly grounded and honest, and her approach to personal development is the same—no fluff.
She openly talks about her struggle with what she calls “Hermione Syndrome”—tying her self-worth to being an over-achiever and always doing the “right thing”—and how she’s gradually cultivated a healthier relationship with herself.
“Becoming Flawesome” is full of tried and true wisdom to which she’s brought her own unique perspective and diverse life experience, lending her advice nuance and credibility. It’s a great book for anyone to read, but it’s especially helpful for creatives and entrepreneurs who struggle with trusting themselves to bring their dreams to life.
WHAT I LOVED
The exercises/reflection points — In every section, she provides genuinely helpful exercises and journal prompts to help you internalize what you’ve read and go deeper.
The practicality — Every bit of advice she provides is very practical and actionable without the weight of the toxic positivity you see a lot these days.
The comprehensiveness — She covers a wide range of topics that makes this both a great starting point (if you’re new to these concepts) and a great refresher (if you’re deep into your self-growth journey).
The bonuses — It comes with an “expanded emotional vocabulary” of over 300 words to help you develop more emotional intelligence and bonus materials such as free guided meditations and a companion course.
SOME OF MY FAVORITE QUOTES FROM “BECOMING FLAWESOME”
“If loving yourself is a little hard at this particular moment in life, or if it is hard in certain circumstances or situations, try kindness first. Kindness always works where love fails, because you can be kind when you are not in the mood, when you are angry or sad, and even when you are not ready for love.”
“Riding the waves of our own motivation and creativity will reap more results than hardcore working to the point of burnout.”
“You cannot shame and guilt yourself out of what you feel. It doesn’t work like that.”
“When we pick our routines and habits with awareness, we can start creating our life, rather than going with the flow passively to see where it takes us.”
“What makes you valuable is not that you might be the best in the world at something. What makes you valuable is your unique mix of experiences, expertise, failings, and mistakes.”
“If happiness is a destination unique to each person, then why are we told to follow the same exact map?”
“Rest is not lazy, a break is not a step backward, a holiday is not stagnation, and waiting is not losing.”
“You cannot become a better version of you, or any version of you for that matter, until you come to peace and accept the current version of you.”